- QUESTION YOUR FEARS: anxiety comes from fear. No matter what type of anxiety you experience (social, generalized, etc) your body and mind react in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable; Chest pains, shaking, heart palpitations, tension, overthinking and more; All of these symptoms come because you’re in a state of fear. But why? Question yourself, questions those fears, because we can’t come up with a solution if we can’t address the cause.
- Why do you fear a situation/person/group of people? Are you afraid they are going to mock you? Laugh at you? Why are you afraid? Have you experienced those situations before? Most of the time, people who suffer from social anxiety have been bullied. The reason you are probably feeling so nervous around people is because you’re afraid they will treat you horrible again. The fear you’re experiencing has a cause & you need to address it to heal. One way to do this is by journalizing.
- MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST: If you questioned yourself and you came to the conclusion that the reason why you’re social anxious is because you have experienced a traumatic event in the past, then acknowledge that it was not your fault. People were mean to you, but it wasn’t because of you… which brings me to the next tip.
- ARE YOU PEOPLE-PLEASING?: Sometimes we think we have to act perfectly. We think we have to look perfect and be perfection just to please others & that’s the biggest lie. You do not need to please people. Repeat that over and over again. It is not your work to please, either with your face or personality. And remember that you can make mistakes, it is normal. You do not need to impress.
- UNDERSTAND THAT PEOPLE PROJECT THEIR INSECURITIES ON OTHERS: When people are insecure they are most likely to disrespect. People are always projecting their reality into you. When someone insults you or mocks you it is not because of you, it is because of their own state of mind. I recommend you to read The four agreements by Miguel Ruiz, he explains this perfectly.
- PRACTICE SELF LOVE: i could talk about self-love forever. It is extremely important when you’re healing.
- ASK YOURSELF: HOW AM I TALKING TO MYSELF? in a kind way? Am i making myself more anxious by overthinking? Are my thoughts being my ally and friends or not? Am i treating myself with love? Am i watching and reading what makes me feel good? Or the things i’m watching are making me feel anxious or sad? Take notes and start making changes.
- CREATE NEW HABITS: meditation and yoga are habits that will help you to feel calmer and relaxed. Before going into a social situation that’s making you feel stressed, meditate for at least 20 mins or/and practice yoga.
- IT’S A PROCESS, BE GENTLE: know that the fear you’re experiencing is just fear, which doesn’t mean it is real. We tend to overthink a lot and we create fake scenarios in our head. Most of the time those fake scenarios are extremely negative and you don’t need them. Know that you will heal, but it will be a process, so be patient and kind to yourself.
Much love & remember it’s ok to feel the way you’re feeling, know that the anxious feeling will pass and you will heal...
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